Focus: Can it work for you?
Don’t worry, and don’t feel bad. There are lots of other people just like you.
People who have no direction, or they could possibly have a direction but just
don’t know how to get there. I may just have the answer for you today.
Everybody’s life has its ups and downs, but not everybody is aware that they
can actually DO something themselves to turn things around. Knowing how to
focus, how to build up confidence and self-esteem, and knowing when to
exercise self-discipline are HUGE steps toward a better life for yourself and
those around you.
Ok, let’s get down to why you are REALLY reading this book. Let’s look at
focus, confidence and self-discipline and see what we can do to make things
work for you!
Focus
Focus is a scary word to most people. What can it do for us? How can it help
us? Can we program ourselves to focus? Focus, confidence and selfdiscipline all work hand in hand with each other.
Learning to focus can help us in many ways.
It can help us realise what we
really want in life, it can help us make good and informed decisions. It can
also help us to accept ourselves just the way we are, without feeling the need
to condemn ourselves or put ourselves down in any way, shape or form.
Focus can help us gain confidence, power and happiness. Focus can also
help us remain grounded and stay on track. Focus can change confusion into
absolute knowledge and self-criticism into love for oneself.
Always be aware that you Are able to focus on what you want, and to focus
your thoughts on anything at all. Try it now by thinking about the dishes, now
change your focus and think about your car. Switch focus again and think
about a dog. It really is that easy to focus on whatever you want to focus on.
We all need to learn to set aside time to be used on the one thing we want or
need to focus on. It’s not a matter of “taking the time” to focus, but more a
matter of “making the time”. If we are willing to make the time, we will focus a
lot better on whatever it is you want/need to do.
You ask me how I can possibly make time to focus with four demanding
children, 3 dogs and a new house?
Easy, I can stay up for an extra hour when all the kids are in bed and the
house is quiet, and MAKE the time to focus on what I’m doing with absolutely
no distractions at all.
Oh, that’s right; you work too, so you’re too tired to stay up late. How about
getting up half an hour early, before the madness at home begins? Before you
go to bed, get everything ready for your early morning “focus time” so that you
don’t have to run around looking for it when you’re half awake. Of course, this
means you have to have a plan of action ready beforehand.
Decide when you are going to make time, and stick to it like glue. Don’t let
ANYTHING take you away from that time. Make sure you have everything you
need all in one place, a room, or even a corner of a room where you can sit in
peace. Unplug the phone, turn off the television, and don’t even listen to quiet
background music.
Whatever happens around you will distract you unless you learn how to focus.
Sometimes it seems easier to just go along with these distractions than to
focus on the end goal. Remember, if you let yourself go along with the
distractions, you are losing sight of your goals. Sharpen your vision of what
you want or you WILL be at the mercy of your environment.
When you want something you have to decide EXACTLY what it is you want.
If you don’t know what you want, there’s no way on earth you’re going to be
able to focus on it. So you want to pass that driving test that you’ve taken and
failed umpteen times, or you want to pass that really important exam in
school.
You might want to write a book, or build a website, run your own business, be
a teacher or any number of different things. The main thing is you have to
KNOW that’s what you want, and you have to set your aims high and demand
yourself to focus on getting it.
Once you decide what you want, you have to decide WHY you want it.
Visualize yourself in that brand new Mercedes or BMW, or in front of that
school desk teaching the kids geography. The vision makes you feel good
right? So that’s why you want it, it feels good to do what you want to do, be
who you want to be and own what you want to own.
Visualization is a major part in being able to focus. If you can actually see
yourself in the position you want to be in, then it’s so much easier to focus on
the task of getting there.
Next thing you have to do is decide how you’re going to actually get what you
want. What are you willing to sacrifice in the quest to get those great exam
grades? What can you do without in order to start up your own business?
How can you make your family life happier and more peaceful?
Sit back and close your eyes, imagining what it will be like to have what you
want in life, and think long and hard about what you can give up so that you
can get there.
